Status: In Progress

There's this thing that's can happen

• where a new crew will feel a certain way in the beginning, it'll have a certain kind of magic

• being in that space feels really good, and it sparks a lot of thoughts and feelings and growth

• and there's a feeling that persists throughout the day and then the week

• "there's people out there who have my back"

• and then over time, that feeling changes a little, the vibe shifts

• if that feel good is blasting off, then there starts to be sessions where there's a kind of failure to launch

• and there's a bit of a insidious dynamic, where thinking about it feels bad or taboo

• there's a fear that "all I'm seeing is novelty" and that's condemnable somehow

• one fears that one cannot build lasting relationships

Some thoughts on this:

• New Crew Energy: Brand new crews have a lot of novelty to use as energy and they blast off because everyone is very present
• Spotlight avoidance
  • No one wants to stand on centre stage and talk about themselves
  • Having a case clinic lined up is a great way to break through this because there’s something to look forward to, people come in expecting to launch
  • so there's not a situation where someone shows up in a space suit to a casual catch up like 😢
  • "Just enough structure to help people be eager to engage and to look forward to something"
  • And to bring that energy right from the beginning which helps with the lift off
• Launching
  • when people are fired up by each other and it goes off
  • If I have something burning to say the group will pay attention to that
  • but there needs to be enough space / oxygen coming in
  • if everyone gets too fired up then it's just people saying things they're excited to say without feeding the flames of other people
  • people want to feel seen, acknowledged they're having an effect on the group / conversation
  • "Healthy honest vulnerability lights people up, and begets more of that"
• Indefinite Crews
  • Failures to launch can be a big deal if the crew isn’t time bounded, after one or two dud sessions people start to think oh no, I’m going to have to awkwardly bow out of this at some stage